Most of us have a million excuses for we have not got what we want in life. Run your story enough times and you will believe it, and do a good job of convincing others.
For as long as you keep repeating your story nothing changes, no growth, no new results and no taking responsivity for yourself. We all have our stories and some of them have served us well!
‘I was fed to much as a child…”
“ I wasn’t loved”
“ I had too much love”
“No man or woman will ever measure up to…”
This is just the tip of the ice berg, there’s many more stories that we keep so that we can tell ourselves its ok that I have not taken action or responsibility for myself.
Many of the best known thinkers talk about the power of meaning and that you are what you focus on.
“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you‘re right.” Self-confidence
is a powerful thing. When Henry Ford made this quote, he was saying just this.25 Feb 2013
What do you get by keeping your old story or complaint alive?
You get to be right
You get to be justified
You get to have an easy life/ i.e. no work on yourself to change your situation
Maintain the status quo
Avoid taking responsibility for yourself
What do you not get by keeping your old story alive?
You don’t make progress in your personal life
Get to be frustrated and angry
Not living your full life to your full potential
Again, this is just the tip of the ice berg.
How do you move on from being a victim of your current ‘story’?
Ask yourself, is this really true? Do I still want these excuses holding me back. Ask yourself the biggest question of all;
‘How old was I when I first created this story?
“How old am I now? “
‘Who am I without my story?”
“What am I here for?”
What am I capable of?
These are questions to be answered by you in your own time, when you are ready to develop and become who you were meant to be, in all areas of your life.
Work with a coach, work with a friend or even on your own, but if you want something that you currently don’t have, you need to do the work.
For one to one coaching please contact me for an initial conversation
With love and support
Personal Development Coach and Relationship Expert
UK’s leading Dating Coach