You are familiar with this one I am sure! You have been on a few great first dates and are beginning to think that this could be the one! There is a certain energy between the two of you, lots of flirting going on and you are finding more and more to talk about, how exciting.
A few dinners have passed now and you feel like you really know your date, you begin to feel safe and familiar in each others company. The more time you spend together the more you begin to want something to come from this. Its like the more you invest the more you feel you are ‘in it’, sound familiar?
By now you have probably shared a few passionate kisses, and are thinking, it would be so nice to be in a relationship already! maybe this is it? Maybe this is as good as it gets?
Could it be possible that you have got so caught up in the fantasy of being in a new relationship that you have ignored a few warning signs, that actually all may not be so well here…
I know I have been in that situation, and the easiest thing to do, is to carry on with the passionate kiss, rather than address the feeling of what may be going on or not going on on the emotional side. What’s missing here? Whats happening that is making you question weather or not this person is right for you?
So now you have a choice, be honest about your feelings for this person, whats going on in your gut? You can always trust your gut feelings to tell you the truth!
Second choice, is much easier and far more enjoyable, temporarily! Go in for the chocolate! Now by chocolate I mean the physical actions, be it kissing or sex, its the same thing really, the rush of the end goal, its like winning the race without having to run it!
Only problem here is, when you wake up in the morning, the nagging feeling of what was not right about the relationship is lying right beside you!
We can learn so much from our patterns, and our behavior. What I would like to share with you is this:
Its never going to get any easier to turn down a bar of chocolate! So try to make sure you are choosing the best possible bar for you!
Jo Barnett
Dating Coach
Its been a real eye opener working at the Jewish singles dating agency Connect. We have so many lovely ladies looking to find their soul mate, wondering just where he is?
As for the guys, it is true to say that everyone is looking for a 10 and in fact, may I ask, are you a 10? This is the hardest thing to address with people, and it comes up time and time again.
By choosing a few qualities that are a ‘must’ and dropping one or two of the ‘in an ideal world’, you come closer to meeting your future partner.
I have had some real success in my time with Connect, a few great matches and one possible wedding on the way! I love a good wedding and that’s what this work is all about really, taking you towards your happy ever after, what ever it may look like for you!
Today I would like to encourage you to sign up to a dating agency, or a great online dating site, and open your heart to new opportunities.
You have to be in the race in order to stand a chance of winning!
This latest project is proving to be most exciting! Not only do I get to be creative in the marketing of the dating agency, I also get to meet and experience real dating enquires every day!
I will be taking a workshop on how to create more happiness in your life.
This workshop is for the Tiger Eagles Coaches and it will be about the mismatch between what you say you want and what you do about going and getting it.
I will be covering how to get more fulfillment in your life and where you can look to get it.
How do you feel about making positive changes in your life? Please feel free to share your thoughts.
I am looking to have future workshops like this, please let me know if this is something you are interested in and contact me for more information.
Warm Wishes
Jo