You are familiar with this one I am sure!  You have been on a few great first dates and are beginning to think that this could be the one!  There is a certain energy between the two of you, lots of flirting going on and you are finding more and more to talk about, how exciting.

A few dinners have passed now and you feel like you really know your date, you begin to feel safe and familiar in each others company. The more time you spend together the more you begin to want something to come from this.  Its like the more you invest the more you feel you are ‘in it’, sound familiar?

By now you have probably shared a few passionate kisses, and are thinking, it would be so nice to be in a relationship already!  maybe this is it?  Maybe this is as good as it gets?

Could it be possible that you have got so caught up in the fantasy of being in a new relationship that you have ignored a few warning signs, that actually all may not be so well here…

I know I have been in that situation, and the easiest thing to do, is to carry on with the passionate kiss, rather than address the feeling of what may be going on or not going on on the emotional side.  What’s missing here? Whats happening that is making you question weather or not this person is right for you?

So now you have a choice, be honest about your feelings for this person, whats going on in your gut?  You can always trust your gut feelings to tell you the truth!

Second choice, is much easier and far more enjoyable, temporarily! Go in for the chocolate! Now by chocolate I mean the physical actions, be it kissing or sex, its the same thing really, the rush of the end goal, its like winning the race without having to run it!

Only problem here is, when you wake up in the morning, the nagging feeling of what was not right about the relationship is lying right beside you!

We can learn so much from our patterns, and our behavior.  What I would like to share with you is this:

Its never going to get any easier to turn down a bar of chocolate!  So try to make sure you are choosing the best possible bar for you!

Jo Barnett

Dating Coach

www.datingcoach.me.uk